The Online Asian Dating Phenomenon
by Nick DeGeorge
As we move into the Chinese New Year and examine our respective situations, we should be reminded of resolutions made to make changes to improve our lives — which should include dating. If you are missing that special someone, then perhaps it is time to take a look at Online Asian Dating.
Online dating was once shunned, as an act of the desperation, and is now main stream with ads from companies such as eHarmony or Match.Com appearing on prime time television. There are websites for just about every possible preference including dating Asian women.
According to the article “‘Yellow fever’ fetish: Why do so many white men want to date a Chinese woman?”, 2.4 million Facebook users are employing dating applications with a clear preference for dating women from East Asia. Tens of thousands of men have opted to try sites such as Asian Girls Online to explore if there is a better option than traditional dating in their home countries.
What is behind the Attraction for Asian Women?
The article implies that Asian ladies are better lovers in popular culture than western women, however, this is a stereotype discussed in the book The Asian Mystique. Understandably, an exotic woman can have sex appeal for most men, yet this is not the driving power behind the dating trend. Why then are men seeking Asian women?
There are three primary reasons where an Asian Lady is preferred, in addition to their natural beauty; these are their attitudes toward age disparity, physical appearance, and family orientation.
We all understand in western society (unless we are celebrities) if we date a woman considerably younger than ourselves, it draws down ire from our family, colleagues, and society. In Asia these relationships are still quite common, as traditionally women were matched with the best families or providers without age as definitive criteria. Whereas our society punishes those who move outside the age appropriate dating pool, in countries such as China, the women focus on meeting successful men, valuing security and quality of life above romantic attraction with men of similar age.
A relationship formed on a practical foundation builds a strong foundation for the future. Therefore, it should not be surprising that the divorce rate is dramatically lower across Asia than it is in the United States and similar western cultures.
Commercial marketing bombards us each and every day brainwashing us that how we appear is who we actually are and that happiness is tied to our appearance. The need for the right image impacts on our society, by driving numerous negative side effects: from teen suicide rates, fad dieting, and an obsession with plastic surgery. Television parades dozens of reality shows all filled with these new beautiful people. Where can a normal man seek out an attractive partner without having to battle through these prejudices? The answer again is Asia.
We all acknowledge in the western culture, physical appearance rates on our list of desirable qualities, and dating sites do push those attributes, yet what about the lady? Asian women overall do not rank the trait as highly on their list of desirable qualities, instead valuing a man’s career, financial success, and education.
Devotion to Family
It is difficult to appreciate what it is like being raised in a group culture. The Asian woman’s traditional devotion to family is unmatched, and there are various reasons. In the USA for instance, our parents can rely on social security, pensions, and 401k plans which do not exist in many Asian countries such as China. It is not in dispute whether in our culture children love their parents, yet it is hard to believe young people today forgoing their own lives to quit school and work for the good of the family. How many children in America would accept a stranger as their husband because their parents selected them?
This intrinsic duty to family and then to marriage is perhaps the primary reason why more men than ever are abandoning the spoiled women of their culture to seek out a partner who will be at their side going forward.
Things to Remember
Engaging in a cross continent relationship is an extraordinary undertaking with both its joys and frustrations. It does mean traveling overseas, dealing with a mountain of government paperwork, and a significant financial investment — are you prepared?
Online Asian dating provides that second chance to have the loving partner. It is also an adventure in every sense which will provide once in a lifetime experiences. Explore the possibilities, for the love of your life can be just one click away.
Sign up today at www.asian-girls-online.com to get started!